Signs of dating a controlling person
The abuser may expects you to be the perfect husband, wife, mother, father, lover, and friend.He/she is very dependent on you for all his/her needs, and may tell you he/she can fulfil all your needs as lover, friend, and companion.Controlling behaviour is often disguised or excused as concern.Concern for your safety, your emotional or mental health, the need to use your time well, or to make sensible decisions.
He/she may want to live in the country without a phone, not let you use the car, stop you from working or gaining further education or qualifications.
Statements such as: 'lf you love me, I'm all you need', 'You are all I need.' are common.
Your abuser may expect you to provide everything for him/her emotionally, practically, financially or spiritually, and then blame you for not being perfect or living up to expectation.
The abuser may try to curtail your social interaction.
He/she may prevent you from spending time with your friends or family and demand that you only go places 'together'.