Issues with dating a recovering alcoholic
I can say this much: When you date someone, you date all of them.In the beginning, when it’s all sunshine and sweetness it’s easy to fall for them and expect things to always be that way. In terms of dating an alcoholic, you at least know upfront that he has had a problem with alcohol and he’s taking steps to deal with it.It’s awful when you realise your repeated actions are extinguishing the flame of someone who burns so brightly.So awful, in fact, that I decided to stop drinking.Sober dating saves you an absolute packet, too: typically, I’d wake up after a date and fish countless receipts out of my pocket, knowing I’d p*ssed a lot of money up the wall, and spent even more on the crazy golf round I’d booked in an attempt to be ‘fun’.Dates now set me back the cost of a few coffees, which means that if I wanted to, I could go on more.
People certainly can recover from being alcoholics – I have seen it and I can tell you that it’s entirely possible he’ll handle it too.
It just seems that he would be better off figuring out his own issues first before he starts a new relationship.
All-to-often a new relationship can be used to delay or cover-up dealing with our problems.
Alcohol was also a way of keeping my emotions in check.
My emotions tended to go haywire when it came to women I fancied – so much so, I was perpetually convinced I’d found ‘the one’.