Dating a man who is divorced with kids
That’s the best insurance policy against having to go through the painful experience of divorce again. In fact, dating is part of the process of healing when it comes to your divorce.
And at the same time, you might never think you’re ready, so when do you know it’s the right time?
Even if you’re the one who wanted out, there’s still going to be a big hole in your brain where your relationship used to live.
So I decided to sit down and come up with an FAQ / survival guide for divorced guys who are looking to get back in the game.
That said, there are some people who date divorced dads who just don’t get it. Awhile ago, I wrote a blog post called Are Divorced Guys A Turnoff To women? In that post, I wrote this quote: “Who one woman gives up could be another woman’s love of her life.” A reader then commented about it: This might be impossible, especially if the couple had children, they are always ‘first, forever’. I got nothing (except dirty looks from ex/kids), they all have legal/blood ties together, so I didn’t want to move in with a family to pay 1/2 the mortgage to be an outsider, permanently. That doesn’t diminish our love for each other, it just is the natural order of the priorities of being a parent.
This means the woman is putting the divorced dad first, and he’s putting her second, or third. That is a given and needs to be accepted by anyone who chooses to date a divorced dad. Tough situation (for me, not them, they all have each other). Ask yourself if you really really love this person and if you do, then staying with him (or her) even under the roughest of circumstances should be a no-brainer!